This Is Your Brain On Gratitude

Ahhh, November, aka, the "Gratitude Month."  If you are like me, your news feed on Facebook has now been infiltrated with post after post of what your friends are grateful for. While sometimes predictable and other times close to bragging, this is actually a terrific practice - one that should continue past November 30th.  Expressing gratitude is good for us on so many levels, so to help celebrate the "Gratitude Month" I've decided to share an excerpt from my new book "How To Live Your Happiest Life" (out soon!).  I hope you enjoy!

"Hopefully, we are all being grateful from time to time, but are you spending enough time being thankful for what you have or are you taking it all for granted? How much time do you spend dwelling on what's wrong about a situation instead of what's right about it? As Stephen Covey said in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, "The way we see the problem is the problem." Shift your perspective and look at things from a different point of view and you may just see more things to be grateful for. 

Interestingly, a "grateful" brain actually looks different when scanned than a brain focusing on negative things. When we're focused on negative things (i.e., why did this tree fall on my house!) we become clumsier and less likely to think of a solution to our problem. We process information slower and get confused more easily.

Practicing gratitude daily can give us a greater sense of well-being, make us more likely to help others, and help us make more progress toward our goals. In a study, doctors who regularly practiced gratitude were better at making a correct diagnosis. Grateful people also are (surprise!) happier, more satisfied with life, exercise more and feel physically healthier (probably due to all that exercise).

It wasn’t long ago that I conducted a short experiment entitled “100 Days of Thank You.”  (You can read the brief blog here:  www.100DaysofThankYou.blogspot.com ).  Much like volunteering, gratitude can (but doesn't have to) involve others. I found that as I verbalized my feelings of gratitude toward others, I was also getting that familiar 'ol warm-fuzzy feeling. Again, being kind to others = being kind to yourself. But fear not, introverts! You don't have to actually tell people you are grateful for them. Simply keeping a journal of what you are grateful for is a big step in the right direction."

Next week, I will continue with the gratitude theme and we'll look at what you should be grateful for (just in case you were running out of Facebook posts!).  

Exercise: It's not so complicated, after all!

In this week's post, we continue looking at how having a healthy body can increase our overall happiness.  In the last few weeks I've been talking about how important nutrition is in maintaining our health (and I had plenty to say about it!).   Today, we'll take a look at the physical-fitness side of things.

There's no question about it - our bodies were made to move.  Unfortunately, judging by the general physique of the population, many of us aren't moving enough.  Are you moving enough?  Try this - keep track of how often you are sitting/lying down throughout any given day.  Do you commute?  Have a desk job?  Like to relax in front of the TV before bedtime?  There is nothing wrong with any of those things, but added together, they make for a pretty sedentary lifestyle.

What types of exercise are the best?  Ask ten people and you'll get ten different answers.  Some swear by running.  Others say lifting weights is key.  You'll find many yoga fanatics out there alongside those that just like to walk around their neighborhood.

Want to know the best kind of exercise?

The one you'll do.  That's kind of a "duh" answer, but it's true.  If you do not have major weight loss or body/shaping goals, then it doesn't really matter what you do, as long as you do.  

There are a plethora of "programs" to choose from (turn on the TV at 3 AM you are sure to find a muscle-bound, sweaty guy pushing his latest product on you), there are also YMCA's to join, online support, fitness magazines, etc.  Pick one and do it.  And if you don't like it & didn't stick with it - pick something else.

Yes, it's probably smart to have some form of cardio.  Yes, it's probably smart to have some weight-bearing activities.  Stretching is a good idea as well (plus, it just feels good).  Truth is, pretty much any physical activity you do will fall into one of those three categories.  Don't make this part so hard.

Often, we tend to overcomplicate things - perhaps we are looking for an easier answer (i.e., take this pill and you'll wear the pants size you're dreaming of).  The easy answer is this - move your body every day in a way you find enjoyable.

Simple.

Now get off the computer and go for a walk!

If You're Sick of Diets - READ THIS!

This week, we continue to look at how to keep our bodies physically healthy so that we may achieve maximum happiness.  Staying with the nutrition component of physical fitness, today we're going to take a look at what you should be feeding that body of yours.  

If you're like most Americans, at some point in your life you have probably tried to "diet."  These days, there are probably as many diets as there are people dieting: South Beach Diet, Atkins, Paleo, Biggest Loser, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig - the list goes on.  Each diet has its own cult following, websites filled with inspiring before and after pictures, and a list of rules that must be followed to achieve maximum results.  

Even if you are not currently on a diet, many people still like to try to eat healthy at least sometimes.  Unfortunately, with all of the diet/nutrition information we are being (over)fed on a daily basis (many of it contradicting yesterday's report) it can be confusing to know what's OK to eat and what's not.  

"Fat is bad!  Don't eat it!"  "Wait - no, fat is OK!  Eat it up!"  "Hold on - some fat is OK.  Here is today's list of OK fat..."  

No wonder obesity is such an epidemic - even  trying to eat well is so confusing its easier to just not care!  

Well friends, let me ease your minds.  It doesn't have to be so hard.  In fact, it can be downright easy.  I believe Michael Pollan puts it best in his book, "In Defense of Food," when he says:

"Eat real food.  Mostly plants.  Not too much."  

Let me break that down for you just a stitch - 

"Eat real food" - we're talking about ditching the processed stuff, here.  Who cares what the front of the box claims or even what the nutrition label has to say - we're just interested in the ingredients.  If you can't pronounce it, couldn't re-create it in your kitchen and your great-grandma wouldn't recognize it as food, don't eat it.  

"Mostly plants" - lettuce, peppers, apples, grapes, etc.  Things you could grow yourself if you had the time and talents.  Food that God put on this earth however many years ago.  Eat lots of that.  

"Not too much" -  Although this is one of Pollan's original 3 rules, don't get hung up on this one.  If you are following the first two rules, you aren't going to need to worry too much about it.  Fact of the matter is, your stomach will tell you when you are full of "real food" a lot quicker than if you are eating the more calorie-dense processed junk.  

That's it.  That's all you have to do and I am willing to bet you will start to shed some un-needed pounds, your blood sugar levels will be where they need to be, your cholesterol levels should be in an appropriate range and a host of other good things will start happening in your body. 

If I haven't made a believer out of you yet, I encourage you to read "In Defense of Food" by Michael Pollan or watch the brief 90-ish minute documentary, "Forks Over Knives."  (Click here to watch it free on hulu).  

Will it take work up front?  Yes, particularly if you're prone to fast food and convenience food.  There will be new recipes to try, new products to learn about at the grocery store, but its worth it.  I promise.  Your body will thank you, and really - isn't that the whole idea?  

For recipe inspiration go to 100 Days Of Real Food - its a great place to get started!

Eat to Be Happy!!

This week we continue our look at how to live a healthier life. Last week, I went into more detail on why we should want to be healthy - if you missed it, see below.   Living healthy will save you from  many health problems down the road (making you un-happy) - not to mention the fact that your body will feel so much better in the present moment, if it is a healthy one (making you happy).

Today's focus is on nutrition and it's an important one.  Now, don't get me wrong - our bodies were made to move and physical activity will most definitely be a future blog post.  However, you don't need to exercise for hours a day if you are eating the right foods.  Tosca Reno, author and fitness guru puts it into these terms: gaining a healthy body is done through 80% nutrition, 10% training, and 10% genetics.  That's a huge emphasis on what you're putting on your plate every day.

I am continually amazed when I hear people talk about going to the gym to "run off the ice cream" they just ate for supper.  Maybe you've thought something similar yourself.  Let me make this next point very clear  - **calories in DO NOT = calories out. **  Your body does different very different things with a Snickers than it does a carrot, so STOP thinking you can eat what you'd like because you are good about exercising.  Even if this method has "appeared" to work for you in the past, you would be wise to develop a different approach.  Unfortunately, at some point it will catch up with you (either in the form of appearance or disease).

I also am surprised when people talk of diet food tasting bland (or worse).  It is my experience that usually these people are those who go on fad diets where they only eat grapefruit for a week, or rely on pre-packaged meals and shakes to sustain themselves.  Those are also usually the people who are cranky when they're on "diets" because they are starving all of the time!

Remember - you are going to be eating for the rest of your life - you want the food to taste good!  It's OK if the food tastes good!  There are LOADS of healthy foods out there that do indeed taste delicious (in fact, you may find that once you quit eating junk food some of your taste buds are awakened and the healthy food is more flavorful).

As for being starving all of the time, if you are eating a healthy diet, you really don't need to count calories.  Counting calories is a relatively new concept and I can assure you people did a fine job of eating for many years before the nutrition facts were printed on our food.  Besides, it's pretty tricky to eat too much healthy food.  Have you ever seen someone un-button their pants after a meal and say, "Man, I should've stopped at that last fork-full of spinach."  Probably not.  So relax a little and enjoy the food you're putting in your mouth.

But what is considered healthy food?  With so many stories in the media contradicting each other, I admit it can be tricky to figure out sometimes.  Start here - trust your gut.  You probably have a pretty good idea of what is good for your body and what isn't.  And if you don't, well stay tuned for next week's post when I'll unveil the mystery that healthy food has become.

Until then, go munch on some celery.

Does Physical Health = Happiness?

This post is the first in a series relating physical health to happiness.  While it's true that merely having a healthy body will not make you a happier person (there are plenty of healthy, miserable people out there) taking care of your body is still a good place to start.  If your body is un-healthy, it will be much harder for you to achieve your maximum happiness, so we'll start here.  

Our society is pretty obsessed with fad diets, fad exercise regimes, diet pills, etc.  In fact, Americans spend over 40 billion dollars on fitness related products every year.  That's a lot of cash being thrown at people who are selling you little more than hope.  

Unfortunately, it's also a lot of cash that is apparently being wasted.  According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, more than one third of Americans are now considered obese.  Obesity is also the underlying cause of many preventable deaths, such as heart diseases, certain cancers, type 2 diabetes and strokes, to name a few.  As you can imagine, with one in three people being obese and most likely ending up with one of the above mentioned diseases, obesity health care costs are sky-high:  $147 billion (in 2008), and an obese person can expect to pay $1,429 more each year on heath related costs than their average-weight counterparts.  

I'm sure I don't have to do much convincing for you to agree that the obesity epidemic is certainly troublesome.  Chances are you have several loved ones who are obese or you may even be obese yourself.  Many people take the attitude of "I'm going to enjoy life and eat what I want and be as lazy as I want.  I don't want to eat things that taste like cardboard and then go run a marathon.  I'm fine being 'fat & happy.'"  Sadly, that attitude will actually sap you of future happiness, cost you more money, and negatively effect the lives of those closest to you.  Not exactly a prescription for happiness.  

So how do you become healthy and happy without starving yourself or depriving yourself?  Stay tuned - next week we will explore the nutrition side of health and hopefully, you can see how easy it is to start making (tasty) changes to your diet.  

Until next week, examine your own life.  How physically healthy do you think you really are?  Are there changes you've been meaning to make but just haven't gotten around to it yet?  Why?  

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How Simple

"Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify." Henry David Thoreau

Take a look at your surroundings right now.  Are you surrounded by "stuff?"  Your "stuff" is supposed to make your life easier...simpler...but it may actually be doing the opposite.  Accumulating more things can clutter our surroundings and our minds, detracting us from our own happiness.

Most of us are aware that in our society, consumerism is king.  Retailers, of course promote this and to some extent, we need to keep purchasing things to support our economy, but how much stuff do we really need?  

Have you ever felt the need to upgrade when what you had was actually working just fine?  This is seen a lot with cars, TVs, phones...  Is there really anything wrong with what you have or are you upgrading for the sake of upgrading?  Or, are you being convinced by some savvy marketing scheme that an upgrade is necessary?

Take a look at this clip from Jimmy Kimmel Live then ask yourself, 

"Is there anything I've been coveting lately that I could do without?  How can I simplify my life?"

Enjoy the humor and have a happy Friday!

Jimmy Kimmel iPhone5 Prank

Procrastination (I was going to think of a clever title, but didn't get around to it...)

Procrastination and I have a love-hate relationship.  On the one hand, I looooove to be lazy.  It's 73 degrees outside, the sun is shining and I just got a new book to read?  Guess where I'll be.  I guarantee you its not wiping down my kitchen cupboards.  When it comes to your happiness however, you're best off if you keep the procrastination to a minimum.  Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't go outside and enjoy that 73 degree day - but if your cupboards need to be wiped down (as mine constantly do with a 3 year-old living in the house), you'll actually feel better (happier) if you wipe them down first and then go outside to enjoy the day.  That old "work first, then play" adage holds some merit.

When you procrastinate, the task you're avoiding gains power over you.  You'll think of it often.  "Gee, I really should get to that."  Your intentions are fair.  "As soon as I finish this other more important project..."  It might even make its way onto your to-do list.   But the more you avoid it, the more guilt you'll wind up feeling.

In the article, Procrastination: Ten Things To Know, Hara Estroff Marano makes a good point:  "There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination." Do you recognize any of these procrastination types in yourself?  The three basic types of procrastination are - thrill seekers (wait until the last minute for the rush they get), avoiders (avoiding a fear of failure and worried about what others will think of them), and decisional procrastinators ("If I don't make the decision, I'm not responsible for the outcome"). Exhibiting these types of behaviors are sure to rob you of your future success - or at least postpone it.

So what works? For chronic procrastinators, cognitive therapy  is recommended.  For the rest of us occasional procrastinators, here is a trick that may help:  when you catch yourself putting off a task, ask yourself why you're not doing it right now.  If it's simply because it's not a high priority, then that's not really procrastination, you're just trying to utilize your time effectively.  If, however, you are putting off a task for another reason, your best bet is to take a minute to identify why you don't want to do the task, and then decide if maybe you'd better off if you just did it and got it over with.  Set a specific deadline when you'll have the task completed.

I'll leave you with these wise words from Frank Tibolt, writer, motivator and success trainer:

"We should be taught not to wait for inspiration to start a thing.  Action always generates inspiration.  Inspiration seldom generates action."

Action step: Take a look at your to-do list.  What items have you been putting off and why?  When is your deadline?